A follow up on the hair loss

Nearly a month ago I asked on my blog if anyone had any tips for hair loss. I was losing massive amounts of hair and it was adding to the stress I was already suffering in my personal life. (When I say massive amounts of hair, my hair was falling out in large clumps)

I’ve had a lot going on this year. I switched jobs in February and had a two-week period that I wasn’t working anywhere. I’ve been paying legal fees, which seem to get more expensive as the days go by, my car is still missing, and on and on and on. Basically, there are a lot of reasons I have to believe that this hair loss was attributed to stress.

I don’t want to be bald. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but I’ve always been known for having long, thick, beautiful hair. It’s like a piece of my identity.

Well, to my surprise, the stress may not have been as big of a contributing factor to my hair loss as I’d originally assumed.

My shampoo and conditioner were.

So let’s walk back to February when I was unemployed for two weeks. I’ve always been someone who’s really good with budgeting my money. That being said, being unemployed for two weeks, having ongoing legal fees that I didn’t plan for, and grossly expensive anti-depressants to pay for (that I had started in November 2021) that weren’t covered by benefits, I didn’t have a ton of money. Actually, I had $22 in my account. I needed shampoo, because, you know, long hair. Clean hair and good hygiene is important.

I ended up buying a shampoo that I’d never bought before. The reason why I bought it was that it was on sale, and if I bought it with the conditioner, I would get an extra $3 off. I ended up getting both the conditioner and shampoo for $6 after my $3 coupon.

The shampoo and conditioner I bought:

When I got it home, I smelled it as I was putting it into my shower and the scent was amazing!

I washed my hair that night and the scent lasted to the next morning and I loved that.

I thought that since it didn’t leave my hair feeling too awful, and since it smelled so great, this could be a new shampoo and conditioner for me. At least for the interim while I’m trying to save money.

In April, I started getting really concerned about my hair loss. I didn’t realize how long I’d been ignoring it, but I distinctly remember finding a bald spot in April and not knowing what to do, I just sat on my bathroom floor and cried.

I made the post on my blog asking for tips to deal with hair loss, and later that week I took to Amazon to buy another bottle of shampoo and conditioner as mine was almost empty.

On Amazon, I noticed this shampoo had 1.5 stars. I remember wondering why so many people hated the shampoo when it smelled so nice, so I went to read the reviews.

The first/top comment in the review section reads like this:

WHAT?

My shampoo and conditioner include formaldehyde? How is that even legal? I thought this was a joke. But I also immediately started to wonder if this is what was causing my hair to fall out in large clumps.

I took to Google to confirm this was the case.

J&J is, in fact, being sued for this. People are claiming that the shampoo and conditioner products of this line lead to massive hair loss. (One article of many)

I went up to my shower to look at the bottles that were there(that were almost empty) and both read that they had DMDM hydantoin in them. DMDM hydantoin is the troublesome ingredient they’re presently being sued for.

I then fell down a reddit rabbit hole where tons of people were talking about this shampoo and conditioner causing hair loss.

Then I realized that my hair loss really started in February when I bought this shampoo and conditioner.

Shortly after making that post on my blog last month, I switched to a new shampoo and conditioner. While dermatologists online are mixed about whether or not hair loss can be proven based off DMDM hydantoin causing hair loss, I thought to myself that if there’s any way that could be a cause of my hair loss, I needed to stop using it.

Well, I know that dermatologists have mixed reviews about whether it does or not cause hair loss, but my review for my body are this: that shampoo and conditioner were causing my hair to fall out.

I noticed a difference in my hair after one wash. ONE WASH.

Whatever DMDM hydantoin was doing to my scalp that was causing my hair to fall out didn’t happen anymore after switching my shampoo and conditioner.

Don’t get me wrong, I still do lose some hair – anyone with long hair knows what that is like. It’s just a fact that when you brush through your tangles, some comes off in the brush. I am no longer tossing my hair behind my ears and having a large clump fall out in my hand. I am now focussed on helping fixing my bald spots, not worried about there being more.

It has been about 3.5 weeks since switching shampoos to one that does not include DMDM hydantoin and it’s been 3.5 weeks since I’ve lost a large clump of hair.

DMDM hydantoin is also in Tresemme and Dove shampoos and conditioners.

The point of this story is this: check your shampoo and conditioner ingredients for DMDM hydantoin. It might not affect you in the same way it did me, but if you ever worry about it, perhaps it’s an ingredient that’s better to avoid.

Where is there clutter?

Really, I would like to know.

I don’t think I’ve shared here yet, but if my life couldn’t get any more stressful, the person who owns the place where I am presently staying has decided to sell. What does that mean for me? Well, for an individual who really doesn’t have a lot of trust in any member of the human race right now, I need to deal with strangers walking through my space up until I move.

I would move out of this place before the place went up for sale in any other circumstance. I would just up and leave, relocating before I ever needed someone walking through my space that I don’t know, in any other circumstance. Stupidly, I only relocated here like two months ago. Stupidly, this was supposed to be my safe-space until I moved provinces. Stupidly, it would be stupid to move again, before I am moving provinces so soon. Stupidly, this entire situation is fucking stupid.

The other day I had a realtor show up at my place and tell me that

  • My house is dull and lacks all decoration and personality
  • My house is dirty
  • My house is cluttered

My house is none of those things. But whatever. She sells real estate, so I am sure she’s speaking from a place of what she tells every fucking client she deals with and she’s sold the person who owns this house on a whole “plan of attack” that involves her getting the most money possible for cleaning and staging and de-cluttering.

I’m getting anxious about having my house, floor plan and pictures that contain all of my things, available online for the world to see.

I’m getting anxious about having strangers walking through my space without me around.

I’m getting anxious about being told to up and leave at a moment’s notice for people to get into my space.

I’m stressed out. I’m stressed out and wondering if there’s really any more stress the world can throw at me this year.

Moving is stressful enough for people selling houses. I’m not even selling my house. I just have to put up with all of this shit for someone else so that I don’t hinder them from being able to sell their place.